...was playing in my head this evening and brought a smile. Memories of my brother and me singing this on road trips – especially breaking into hysterical laughter during the free-form scat time. And always undercutting my sister when she wanted to join with impromptu changes to the rhythm so she never came in on time. Running family joke from eons ago. Proud to say that it’s still practiced even in our 30s.
About the only thing the above reminiscence has in common with the online personals is... well, nothing. Ha. But if I were creative and could spin it correctly...
(1) you learned I grew up with siblings and discovered how to share, cooperate, tease, ignore, argue, play.
(2) you learned my family traveled regularly by car, therefore, I can stay awake during road trips and give awesome shoulder rubs for the driver. Unless I’m the driver and that’s plain awkward. (Oh, and since we didn’t fly anywhere on vacation, you can surmise that we were not one of the elite percentage for whom Bush created tax breaks).
(3) you learned I can use capital letters, multi-syllabic words, and correct spelling.
(4) you learned I can sing complex songs in another language.
(5) whatever else you may have inferred...
On a more relevant note, have tried CL personals infrequently and with mixed results. On good days I realize it’s just a numbers game and law of probability has to kick in at some point. You all know what the challenging days are like. While it would be something of a miracle to find “the one” online, I do think it’s possible to identify a few trustworthy, close friends with similar smarts, likes, passions, absurdities. Ultimately shooting for the potential LTR dating scenario, but I think that expectation is unrealistic on a first or second meeting.
The laundry lists that both men and women complain about are a relevant part of the filter process. While some folks sound snobby, shallow, ridiculous, judgmental, etc, I think there are acceptable margins in expressing desirable traits. So I’ll share some of my basics:
- Be exceptionally smart. Yes, I know there are varying types of smarts. Be curious/questioning of the world around you, read literature/current events, be passionate and excel in your undertakings. And have constant thoughts/puns rumbling around in your head all the time in order to feed a continuous banter.
- Embrace integrity in all aspects of your life. You are reliable, honest, and retain a strong value system (no, I’m not speaking of religion).
- Enjoy being outside, regardless of the weather. Well, obviously there are exceptions to the rule, but take the occasional beach outing in the rain, go for foggy pea soup hike in the Headlands, engage in a good snowball fight in the Sierras. Mtn bike, ski, whatever interests you. And then snuggle in front of the fireplace with hot chocolate and mini-marshmallows (not to mislead you, I don’t have a fireplace but could round up some hot chocolate).
- Partake of the occasional social drink, but be free of drugs, smokes, and heavy alcohol. While we’re at it, be disease free.
- This might sound hokey, but be able to spend time alone without continual distractions (music, tv, cell phone, radio, etc) and be somewhat introspective in defining/improving yourself.
- Have a Y chromosome from birth, be under 40, single and unattached (completely/legally free of any other relationship commitment), fit enough to hike a few miles along Tioga Pass, and open to pursuing a monogamous relationship.
These are all character and lifestyle traits that I seek in a potential partner. With the exception of the Y chromosome, they reflect me as well.
Although I agree with the arguments for posting a pic, this IS Craigslist and I prefer not to include one. I will definitely respond in kind for those of you who send a relevant reply with a clear photo.
Here's a quick dose of the Muppets: www.latke.net/mahnamahna/mahnamahna.mp3
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