I read this on women seeking men. So we know what men have to do on a first date but what does a woman have to do to deserve a second date?
FAQ: Should a man go dutch when out with a Woman regardless of who initiated?
Studies show 97% of men pay for the dates regardless of who initiated the date.
Not surprisingly, men who practice "going dutch" lose out in competing for women to men who do pay for the ladies. Why? Men who pay for dates are viewed by woman as being brought up well and coming from a good family, having good manners, well-socialized, being better educated, having a good well-paying job, and most importantly, say women, having the ability to make enough to support a family.
Women say if the man let's her pay for own dinner, it's sending a sign he earns little money in his job.
Women say if they agree to pay for their own meal, it's telling the guy politely that she rejects him. There is no possiblity she will think of him as a serious suitor.
Asked why women won't consider ever marrying or going on future dates with a man that has gone Dutch, the answers are overwhelmingly negative evaluations about the man's charactecter:
-- He's not mature enough to be a husband and family man.
-- My parents would not approve of him.
-- He's too selfish.
-- He's poor.
-- If we had children together and things get tight, they and I will starve.
-- He's mean.
-- My friends and family will say I made a bad choice and he's not good enough for me.
-- He will do the same thing to my parents and I will be ashamed of him.
-- Other men will more than gladly take care of the bills on a date.
-- There's something wrong with him.
-- He's lazy and doesn't like to work to provide for me and our future kids.
-- He loves his money more than me and our family.
-- I cannot like or respect such a man.
-- He's low quality.
-- He's not marriage quality.
-- My friend's boyfriends always pay for their dates so I know I can find a better guy.
When men who do pay for dates are asked their opinions about men who go dutch (make women pay for their own meals and expenses) the answers are :
-- He's a loser (most common answer).
-- He's inexperienced and doesn't know much about dating women.
-- He is or use to be very poor.
-- He can't support himself and likely doesn't have a good paying job.
-- The less competition for me, hey, the better.
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