I was told that a 50/50 relationship where an equal partnership is established and kept is the ideal. In actuality, the typical relationship has a giver and a receiver. This may be what karma is all about in a relationship perhaps--working out some past debt perhaps where one feels it is necessary to give and one feels it necessary to receive. Sometimes that actually 'lasts' (like the person outlives the karma, really) but usually not so well. However, things are never that simple, really. We all give and all receive on many levels and your truth may be more dependant on your perspective and your perception; for I have heard that change your perception or your perspective and you will change your truth. It is so difficult, if not practically impossible to know from all perspectives. The seven blind men and the elephant exist in all of us to some extent and it is this blindness that makes us want to connect so deeply. Sorry to mention this here on the rather puritanical LTR area of CL but that is what the mutual orgasms are mostly about. For one brief moment in time we see and feel things from another perspective, not to mention relief some major league tension in our bodies. Oh yeah, and those yummy brain chemicals that we get to release.
What we won't do, do for love as the song goes, right? I want to know, I want to feel and I want to learn. I know there is so much more for me to discover in this life and it would be great to find someone to discover deeper and deeper levels of the mystery that we call life.
Okay if you want to know more about me just ask. I don't feel like I need to sell myself here, although nothing sells itself, so I'm not for sale then. There that one is settled.
Oh yeah, so maybe the correct answer to the above questions is that in the end it all equals out in it's own way and everyone comes away with the lesson they came to get. Sometimes maybe we all have to receive and learn to receive and all have to give. Sometimes we deprive others of learning to give by not being good receivers. And sometimes we deprive others of learning to receive by always taking. I guess that is where empathy and compassion come in as well as benevolance, kindness and love, perhaps.
Maybe, if we are lucky we get to share in another's lesson or a communal lesson and we get to go beyond what our lesson was, is or was supposed to be. I was told we can totally change our karma and our lives if we only want to and believe we can. If you have any wisdom to share, I'm listening.
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