I'm not wanting to be rude, but one does have to wonder the snese of adopting when you don't have the time it takes to raise a child.
An adopted child has special needs and really needs a full time parent to devote time to them.
This advice coming from a 43 yr old Mom who has already raised children and speaks from expereince.
One does wonder what your motivation is for adopting. It just doen't make sense to adopt when you need to put the child is daycare and then need someone to pick them up feed them and put them to bed, where in that day do you spend any amount of parenting, or bonding.
Being a part-time weekend parent to a child just isn't being fair to a child. Again this isn't meant to be slanderous. Please rethink your want to be adoptive parent, and what you have to offer a child , aside material things like a nice home or things.
Ask any child and all they want is time with thier parents, not things, or a fancy home. I was a single parent for 10 years and I stayed at home and raised two daughteres on about $1500-2500 a month. We lived in the country and even had horses as I did raise and breed them. We had a very good life and I had all the time in the world to devote to my girls.
I did try to work a couple of times full time and they were miserable and so I would quit just to devote the time to them. They understood there was sacrifices made to have me at home and there were sacrifices for keeping the horses they loved, so we lived a meager existance in simple housing and food.
My girls are now adults and they will tell anyone it was all worth it, and I have heard them say so.. We have great memories of our time spent togther.
Often I would go and take them out of school early, or let them stay home and we would have a day going out together. My children learned to have great appreciation for all they had, and a great work ethic as they had to help with many things livning the way we did.
They were able to see the difference between those children who didn't have time to spend with thier kids and also how other kids who had too much given to them had no appreciation for what they had.
So, bottom line, money and material things cannot replace the time one spends with thier children. Often parent don't comprehend these concepts until it's too late and they have raised children who are distant and unappreciative.
Please realize the pros and con's to offering a home to a child and realize you may be depriving them ulimately from a home that has the time to spend with them. Or realign you true needs and see if you can scale down your lifesyle and make sacrifices to have a parent spend time at home at least part time. I promise the rewards are limitless. Best Luck in your endeavors.
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