PLEASE, PLEASE, Respect my clarity and conciseness of what I am asking for in the sense of being a Christian Man. There are so many of us longing for that special someone in our lives, and I really think that while a lot of people have a lot to offer, our time is valuable and shouldn't be wasted on hopeful possibilities, outside of that which WE KNOW we really need.
While I am looking for an exclusive relationship, I need the time to determine with whom I need and want to be exclusive with, so I will not be inclined to make any decisions towards just one person, until such time that God has indeed made himself fully known in whom the right person is. You can be assured that once God has made himself known, then exclusivity at that point will take place.
In the mean time, I will continue to have contact with whatever friends I have made in the Lord. And as this is a re-post, I apologize to those of you who were at one time in contact with me and had become good friends, but at the request of one gentlemen, I cut off contact with those of you. I will not do that again. It was entirely premature to have that expected of me, and for me to comply. My sincerest apologies to you all.
I am seeking an honest to goodness Christian man. Not just one by title, but in word and deed. Someone I can go to church with, he with me at mine, and me with him at his (maybe eventually together). Preferably a divorced or widowed man with children of his own, not seeking to have more children, as I already have mine.
We don't have to necessarily intergrate our families together right away, but rather get some quality alone time with eachother working on our own relationship first. Someone to get away with for a parents day out, a man I can feel comfortable talking with over the phone and in person, who will aim to be my friend first.
I am sold out for Christ, I spend my time raising my children, writing Christian songs and Christian books, playing the piano and guitar and singing. I love to listen to all types of Christian music, no other music does it for me. (And on this I will not compromise), meaning that I believe that everything God gives to me is a blessing, that means my home, my vehicle and everything else.
I believe in blessing God back and showing him honor for that which he provides me with, so I do not listen to secular music in my home or my vehicle, for they belong to God and are only given to me for my care and stewardship. If you are at a place in your life, where anything but Christian music is in your genre, I truly believe that would be an area of contention for us, as I will not compromise that part of my life.
I would love to meet a Christian man who feels the same, is looking for the same type of situation and shares some of my interests and most definately my beliefs. A man of prayer, and who feeds off of the word of God and aims to follow God as much as possible, but would really truly like to be loved.
I am cautious about love, and life in general. But if I find it, I'm true to it, and as I love God will all of my heart, mind, strength and soul, I will humanly love him the same. I will put my all into it holding nothing back. I am caring, loving, thoughtful, generous, easy going, mild mannered, humble, meek, a little shy until i get to know you, agreeable, careful, god minded, intense, passionate, personal and up close, private with you, exclusive to you, loyal, faithful, honest, open and true.
In marriage I would be a wife of noble character, a true Proverbs 31 woman. I don't nag, argue or fight, my best weapon is getting on my knee's and telling my heavenly father on you, and if I'm wrong my father will tell me, change my heart and cause me to obey, and if you are wrong, he'll smite you! Just kidding, I'll pray for him to change your heart too. So there is no need to be argumentative or mad, angry and hurtful.
I am a full believer in saying and meaning the 12 hardest words of the english language. and they are: I was wrong; I am sorry; please forgive me; I love you. I believe that love heals a multitude of sins, I believe in second chances, I believe in having the humility to admit when you are wrong and having the love to forgive and carry on.
If you are the right man for me, then severing a relationship is never an option, resolving conflict is the only choice. (If you are the kind of person, that instead of attempting to work things through, you opt to give no form of communication at all, then that is something that will not work for me) And when conflict can't be resolved, I expect you to be the man, and make the final decision to be the final authority over the resolution, decision and me, and then cause me to submit to it, because someone has to be the leader, and God says it's you! And if he says it, then I believe it!
I believe in quality time, gift giving, acts of service, physical touch and encouraging words as ways to communicate love to eachother. People don't care about what you know until they know that you care, so I believe that being caring in a relationship and considerate and respectful is the best way to go. God doesn't consult your past to determine your future, so why should I?
I don't believe in holding a record of wrongs against one another, I believe in having the conflict and seeing it through to resolution, holding no grudges and having no regrets. (Communication is a must!)
I need to know quite a bit about a person before I invest in them. Even intense attraction won't make me jump in before i've gotten to know the person pretty well. I want time to test character and to get more than superficial background information. (And I need to know that you are truly a man of your word, not just honest, but someone who will stand by the words that he says, a man of integrity).
I want a person at the center of my life next to Christ, as my life is not all about success or intense preoccupation with hobbies that would take up most of my spare time. But don't mistake my desires for me being someone who is clingy, because I'm not (but I do require communication). I'm respectful of a persons time and how they want to spend it. And I'm appreciative of the time they choose to spend with me.
On the other hand, while I am not the type to roam, please understand that I am truly in search of that one man, I don't want to settle or compromise again, I've been there and done that, I not only know what I want and what I don't want, I know what I need.
I need a partner who has the same appetite for varied experiences (such as our behind closed doors life together) that I do. I am risk averse, relaxed, cautious, but seeking variety, (someone to fantasize and experiment with ---in a committed relationship only---(that means marriage guys!), (no matter how extreme or forbidden it may be), someone willing to meet my fantasies as well as their own)---(again, that means in marriage guys!).
I would like a man who is honest and has integrity, is assertive and confident. One who has a good moral system and sticks to his own values no matter the cost. Someone who doesn't try to impress me, but is genuine, sincere and true. (This means if after reading my post, you try to become the person that I am describing, and try to represent yourself as such, rather than honestly believing that you are already that person, then it is not fair to waste your time or mine). Someone who is the same with his co-workers, family and friends as he is with me.
He needs to be somewhat dominate and controlling when needed (appropriate to the situation), simply because I've been independent for so long, that I need someone who's personality can overpower mine, in order to direct and guide me better. I'm not afraid to admit that I need to be put in my place at times, but here's the clincher, I love being under someones authority and I love accountability, it is how I best grow and thrive.
So I need a man who isn't afraid to give me a firm hand when needed and although mild mannered and humble in the light of day, he is able to unleash behind closed doors with me at night. Not afraid to tap into his most primal and animalistic nature at the core of his being and realize that I am there for his pleasure alone, that I am the one safe place for him in this world, where he can truly be who he is when he is alone without fear of condemnation, judgement, limitations, restrictions or consequences. (This means in marriage guys!)
I believe that a woman should be completely submissive in all areas of a relationship. And I'm that woman. But I truly need a man who is submissive to Christ, in order for me to be submissive to him. He has to take true spiritual leadership in the relationship and put Christ before me. He has to have the ability to lift me up and not tear me down, and to always spur me on towards good works in Christ, support my ministry and purpose, and even to come along side of me and support me and help me within any ministry I might be involved in. I would prefer that he himself has a ministry that he is involved in, but it is not a criteria.
I of course would like him to be handsome, have a great smile, eyes you can get lost in, hair I can run my fingers through (and body type is not an issue for me--it's your spirit). I don't want him to be physically timid. I want him to know what he wants, to make me and take me. Not only could he dare to fantasize, but with me, none of his fantasies would be out of reach. If properly taken care of by a woman, a man should never have to fantasize. And if he does, it's her job to insure that they come to complete fruition. (again in marriage guys, if I haven't said that enough already)
I only want to serve, love, obey and submit and be subservient to him and him alone. He would never be for wanting, (in any area) so long as his relationship with Christ comes first. Basically in a nut shell, if you are reading this profile and you have exchanged all that you are, for all that Christ is, then I want to talk to you. Please email me with your testimony and we will go from there.
What I mean by testimony, is while I would like a description of you, your age, your profession, if you have any kids or not, where you live, and things of that nature.....I truly want to know, where do you attend church, how long have you been a Christian, how did you come to Christ, are you involved in any kind of ministry past or present and if so, what?, What is your vision in life, what is your favorite bible verse and why? AND PLEASE REMEMBER....it's not where you've been that's important to me, it's where you are going......in Christ. (cause if you are the right man for me, then where you are going in Christ is where you would ultimately lead me)
Please include in your response to me, why you are responding to me (and don't be afraid to be honest), I want to know specifically, what it is that makes you think that you could be the right man for me. (so yes guys, I'm asking you to put some real effort into your responses to me), as I believe it will save a lot of back and forth time between us, and help to give me a real sense of who you are, which will help me to determine if I want to spend time finding out how you are.
PLEASE, PLEASE, all of you with hate mail out there, I'd appreciate it that you keep it to yourselves...if you feel compelled to share your disdain with me, then I of course will be compelled to witness to you in love.
And while I understand that this post seems to have a deeply moved affect on some of you men out there (which I truly appreciate knowing when it's delivered to me in an appropriate manner), approaching me from that angle (while important), will not work. Please be as respectful to me in your reply, as I have done my best to be to you. (please do not bombard me with phone numbers and pictures, while flattering, I'm interested in you, not in the physical and not in moving so quickly).
I'll save you the trouble now, I will exchange a physical description with you, but I will not be emailing pictures of myself that are requested (of various nature), you know who you are.......exchanging pictures is something I care to reserve for when we know whether or not we are connecting on a SPIRITUAL level. At that point it's between you and I, and shouldn't be up for grabs through this cyber world out here.
I want to thank you for taking the time to read this post, I know that it is extensive, but with good reason, and I look forward to hearing from you and at least forging a beautiful friendship in Christ.
May the will of God never lead you, where the grace of God can not keep you.
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